If you're still with the father of your baby, or if you've entered a new relationship and are living with this new person, you need to make time for dates. It is very important to have time together, especially if you're living together and you both have to deal with the daily grind of baby tasks here and there and everywhere. It is obviously best if a grandma lives fairly close to you for a no-hassle baby-sitter, but even if not you should find a friend you trust or even hire someone.
You should go out on a date with your other half about once a month. Every week is excessive, twice a month could be great, but definitely at least once every six weeks. You don't have to drink, or go to a fancy restaurant, but you should definitely get out of the house. Sure it might be nice to catch up on some recorded tv, but you can do that any evening after the baby has gone to bed. You should get out of the house, go to the cinema, go bowling, have a candlelit dinner, something you don't often get to do. You should ban any baby talk, you won't succeed, at least the first couple of times anyway, but you should have that goal in mind. It should be just you two at that table. Let the stresses of the past few weeks melt away, as you remember why you fell for each other, and what it is like to be together. Date night is something you should work into your budget, you might want to try a restaurant you've been past, you might want to recreate your first date, you might even want to go out drinking. Do not feel guilty about this. You need time together and time for yourselves. You're not just parents. You're a couple in love.
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